We’ve all found ourselves in that delicate and extremely tense moment when we’ve just made a colossal error in judgement that has led to a giant mistake. Some mistakes carry with them immense natural consequences, and humans will go to great lengths to avoid them by taking all sorts of unproductive actions: perpetuating lies to cover up, appointing a scapegoat, and even a complete shutdown and denial of wrongdoing. Applying all of these types of “fixes” will continue to compound the issue at hand making it much worse to face and erase. I think this happens because we are thoroughly embarrassed by our choice, and we believe once people find out they are going to begin to define us by our failure. These are all valid things that may actually happen so it’s not a stretch to understand why people react out of fear. I take the position that it is not our failures that define us, but it is our response to those failures that tell you about a person’s true character.
However, God sees you through a different lens than you or the rest of the world does in a moment. His overwhelming first response is LOVE. Romans 8:38-39 says, “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” No mistake is too great to sever your ability to be LOVED by God. In love, I believe God is more interested in seeing reconciliation and repentance than reparation and restitution for our sins. Turns out that debt is unpayable by us anyway; don’t even try.
The sooner we all realize not one of us are immune to temptations, nor in our own strength can we avoid the snares of sin and satan, we will begin to turn our eyes to the One who has already taken the penalty for all sins of the world–yes, even the one that is fresh in your mind–and support each other in along the way with a perspective and understanding that we each need the Holy Spirit’s constant guidance, help and strength every single day. Confess to Him where you have fallen short, and ask for help to understand the root of your choice and then let the Spirit give you direction so that you can avoid the same decision down the road.
I want to share the lyrics to a song that help me when I feel like running away or hiding from God in the midst of my mess up as a reminder that I am LOVED, SEEN, CHOSEN, FORGIVEN. This song is “Out of Hiding (Father’s Song) by Stephany Frizzell-Gretzinger.
Come out of hiding/You’re safe here with Me/There’s no need to cover/What I already see
You’ve got your reasons/But I hold your peace/You’ve been on lockdown/And I hold the key
‘Cause I loved you before you knew it was love/And I saw it all, still I chose the cross
And you were the one that I was thinking of/When I rose from the grave
Now rid of the shackles, My victory’s yours/I tore the veil for you to come close
There’s no reason to stand at a distance anymore/You’re not far from home
I’ll be your lighthouse/When you’re lost at sea/And I will illuminate/Everything
No need to be frightened /By intimacy/No, just throw off your fear/And come running to Me
And oh as you run/What hindered love/Will only become/Part of the story
Baby, you’re almost home now/Please don’t quit now/You’re almost home to Me